Friday, January 27, 2012


A Sociopath

A sociopath is typically defined as someone who lies incessantly to get their way with little concern for others.  They tend to have little regard or respect for the rights and feelings of others, often charming, charismatic and manipulative.

Compulsive Liar

A compulsive liar is defined as someone who lies out of habit. Lying is their normal and reflexive way of responding to questions. Compulsive lying is usually thought to develop in early childhood, due to being placed in an environment where lying was necessary.

Some common feelings after telling a fib, is usually some remorse, but the compulsive liars are unrepentant for their actions. 
Just like any habit (bad or not), once you begin, you become content and continue.

What, Why and How???

Here are some more symptoms of compulsive liars that may not be as straightforward.
  • Low self-esteem: This is a characteristic of most people with a compulsive lying disorder.
  • Other negative personality traits: Watch for narcissistic, manipulative behavior and/or inappropriate emotions and impulsive reactions.
  • Addictions: People with addictions to gambling, alcohol, drugs or other activities also are much more likely to lie compulsively.
  • Bipolar Disorder: Impulsive behavior is common during this period, and it becomes easier to tell a lie than face reality.
  • Inability to face reality: Even when confronted a compulsive liar will never admit the truth.

What causes compulsive lying?

  • Because they behave badly but want to still ‘look good’
  • To genuinely save someone else’s feelings.  
  • To control other people.
  • For self-aggrandizement.  
  • Through sheer force of habit - “Lying is as easy as breathing for me!”

Step 1: “To thine own self be true” - regardless of what others are doing

You know what is honest, so be honest regardless of a dishonest group-think culture - don’t hide behind the excuse of widespread lying.

Step  2:  Remember the truth is often easier

Cast off lying and you’ll find life instantly becomes much less stressful.

Step 3: Know what lying is

Don’t make excuses to yourself. Not telling the truth, when you know what it is, is lying.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Remember the "Dick Van Dyke" show?

For those old enough to have seen the "Dick Van Dyke" show, do you remember  the episode when he dreamt that everyone had eyes on the back of their heads?
The episode being- IT MAY LOOK LIKE A WALNUT (1963)

In a "nutshell":(pun intended)

It starts with Rob and Laura watching a late night movie, in which earth is being invaded by humanoid aliens from the planet Twylo. The aliens, look human, but have eyes under their hair.   They convert the earthlings by planting alien eggs, walnut-like objects on the humans.   Being led by Danny Thomas, the aliens plan to enslave humans, by removing their thumbs and sense of humor.

The  next day, Rob is conflicted with being watched all the time and his suspicion of Laura, giving way to the slapstick humor Dick Van Dyke is known for.   Entwining it into a series of events with the characters, revealing their unison alien effort to force Rob to convert.

Eventually Rob awoke to his wonderful fictional life, and wife who had her own nightmare...

 This episode is the most memorable, understand I was a child watching the reruns during summer vacation or Staying home on a "sick day".  
The thought that people can band together to force some one to be like them, is not unfamiliar and not limited to alien invasion.  It  is happening every where  Turn on the television, you see women and men telling people their personal style is not acceptable, interventions so to speak, converting these people to styles satisfactory to the whole.    Their uniqueness is lost, and gone, with their new found "current style".  They are but one more sheep added to the herd.   

Although some may have just seen the humor in the episode, I think it was one brick added to my wall.

Thursday, January 12, 2012

Rue the Day~!

 Rue the Day….

How many times can you recall when you had to apologize or admit your err to someone?  Remembering how relieving it felt once it was done is a memorable feeling.  The moving forward from that point is just as unforgettable.  So what happens when issues go unresolved and there is no closure? 

This happens more often than one would like to acknowledge.  Some people will never admit to the fault.  Naturally, our first response when confronting a mistake is to deny it or make up an excuse. No one wants to appear unintelligent or ill informed. It is a true leader who recognizes the adage "to err is human” and can demonstrate the self-confidence and integrity to admit to mistakes, thus maintaining the trust in those they lead.

For those with unresolved issues, you see them, they walk around barking orders that were already learned or a given.   They do this so much that you know they do it just to hear them selves being in control.  So really what it is then is a control issue.   Yes we all know someone, and more than likely we know many people that are like this.  Take a look, they are all around. 

No one person can be faultless, there are no perfect people.  Well maybe Mother Theresa.  For myself, when I have made a mistake that has upset an individual, often I find that a simple apology goes a long way.


Thursday, January 05, 2012

April showers brings May flowers,....

So can we surmise to say that February Note$ assures March Vote$.....

I am asking the general council for 20 minutes of their time at the General Council meeting in March.
I want to show a video, and it is about 20 minutes long and it can be shown during a break or lunch.  All I want to do is make it available to all.  
  I have asked this of the Board of Directors, but they never answered.   You would think at least one person would answer me, yay or nay. 
 So I am requesting this of the people,

Thank You!

Charlene James

Wednesday, January 04, 2012

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